What have you done to work on your leadership style? What are your plans and goals going forward?
What I have done to work on my leadership style is embrace my high score in "enabling others to act." I have a friend that is the CEO of an entertainment group called C.R.E.A.M. TEAM, and I basically support everything he does with that group. When he gets frustrated, I just remind him of why he started and what the benefits/consequences would be if he were to quit/give up. Thus, this brings him back to reality, knowing that he has to make a living and that he actually loves what he does.
My goals are to make my scores higher in the other categories, such as "encouraging the heart," because I feel that encouraging and enabling go hand-in-hand, when being a leader. Encouraging someone can also help them to feel more enabled to keep doing their job well. In conclusion, I plan on continuing being a support system for my family and close friends.
Thursday, March 5, 2009
Reflection 9
Think of a time when you have helped someone through a tough time. Was it a good friend or someone you just met? How did you know what to do/what to say? What would you do differently if the same situation came up again?
Recently, I helped a close friend that was having trouble with the death of a loved one. The situation is, the loved one passed in the year 2008. My friend keeps having dreams of their cousin. When I asked him what they were about he replied, "It's like he never left. We're still doing the same things we were doing when he was here." So, I just decided to deal with this matter by letting him know that I've been through the same thing with a loved that passed when I was four. Then, I let him talk/vent about the whole situation with how his cousin passed. Being that his cousin's life was taken and they were more like brothers than cousins made me much more empathic to his situation. I feel that for me to help him get through this ordeal that I would have to feel what he was feeling. Further, I related to this also because my uncle's life was taken. So, I know what it is like to be left with questions and not being able to find even ground.
I am not sure how I knew what to say or do. I think just being there to let him talk to a neutral party about how he is feeling was enough for him. I say this because he feels that if he talks to his family about it then he will bring them down, also. So, having someone to confide in about having a hard time with a death, outside of the family, I feel helped him a great deal.
Recently, I helped a close friend that was having trouble with the death of a loved one. The situation is, the loved one passed in the year 2008. My friend keeps having dreams of their cousin. When I asked him what they were about he replied, "It's like he never left. We're still doing the same things we were doing when he was here." So, I just decided to deal with this matter by letting him know that I've been through the same thing with a loved that passed when I was four. Then, I let him talk/vent about the whole situation with how his cousin passed. Being that his cousin's life was taken and they were more like brothers than cousins made me much more empathic to his situation. I feel that for me to help him get through this ordeal that I would have to feel what he was feeling. Further, I related to this also because my uncle's life was taken. So, I know what it is like to be left with questions and not being able to find even ground.
I am not sure how I knew what to say or do. I think just being there to let him talk to a neutral party about how he is feeling was enough for him. I say this because he feels that if he talks to his family about it then he will bring them down, also. So, having someone to confide in about having a hard time with a death, outside of the family, I feel helped him a great deal.
Reflection 8
What advice do you have for young women leaders?
One of my favorite quotes is, "The best revenge to have on someone, is to prove them wrong." I'm not sure who said it, but once I heard it, I always remembered.
I think that all young women leaders should know that quote. In life people in general go through great lengths to achieve success. But, I feel that women take on much more, because in the past we were seen as sensitive and needed to be taken care of. Now in days, women are seen more as independent and capable of taking on any task, just as a man can handle. But, there is that gray area where some people still feel that a woman should take care of family and home, and their concentration should be set on just that. Contrastingly, many women have proven that it is possible to take care of family and home while having a career. I feel that women have the ability to multitask very well. In my opinion, men need to concentrate on ONE thing at a time. For example, most men work and pay the bills, but women work, take care of their kids (and all of their activities), pay bills, and may find time for leisure. Do not let it go unsaid that there are men that are great single parents, and can multitask well.
Young women leaders should know whatever they aspire to take on they should never get discouraged, because there have been plenty of other women that have gone through it, also. So, as long as they have determination and keep there eye on the prize, they can achieve anything.
One of my favorite quotes is, "The best revenge to have on someone, is to prove them wrong." I'm not sure who said it, but once I heard it, I always remembered.
I think that all young women leaders should know that quote. In life people in general go through great lengths to achieve success. But, I feel that women take on much more, because in the past we were seen as sensitive and needed to be taken care of. Now in days, women are seen more as independent and capable of taking on any task, just as a man can handle. But, there is that gray area where some people still feel that a woman should take care of family and home, and their concentration should be set on just that. Contrastingly, many women have proven that it is possible to take care of family and home while having a career. I feel that women have the ability to multitask very well. In my opinion, men need to concentrate on ONE thing at a time. For example, most men work and pay the bills, but women work, take care of their kids (and all of their activities), pay bills, and may find time for leisure. Do not let it go unsaid that there are men that are great single parents, and can multitask well.
Young women leaders should know whatever they aspire to take on they should never get discouraged, because there have been plenty of other women that have gone through it, also. So, as long as they have determination and keep there eye on the prize, they can achieve anything.
Reflection 7
What do you think makes you a productive leader? How do you get things done... and is there anything you'd like to do better?
What makes me a productive leader is that I sit back and hear everyone's opinion about situations. This aids in enabling others to act, so I am not the one doing all of the work. I can also, put my foot down when need be, in order to get the work done in a timely manner. This puts a stop to conflicts and compels people to focus on the task at hand.
I would want to work on the fact that I may approach a task a little too aggressively. Thus, I may be too passive on some occasions. I would like to be more of an assertive leader. This would effect the amount of work that gets done, in a positive way. If I am too aggressive, people may want to give up and if I am too passive, people may take me for granted and slack on their work.
What makes me a productive leader is that I sit back and hear everyone's opinion about situations. This aids in enabling others to act, so I am not the one doing all of the work. I can also, put my foot down when need be, in order to get the work done in a timely manner. This puts a stop to conflicts and compels people to focus on the task at hand.
I would want to work on the fact that I may approach a task a little too aggressively. Thus, I may be too passive on some occasions. I would like to be more of an assertive leader. This would effect the amount of work that gets done, in a positive way. If I am too aggressive, people may want to give up and if I am too passive, people may take me for granted and slack on their work.
Reflection 6
What do you think so far about Madsen's book? How have you seen yourself or other women around you represented in the stories of these women presidents?
So far, I think Madsen's book is very informational.
I do not relate to any of the stories that the women presidents have told. I do not see myself as a leader in that type of setting or even wanting to have that type of responsibility. I would much rather be the head chair person at a psychiatric hospital. But, I guess I could take what I need from the book to help me be an efficient leader in different settings.
In conclusion, this is not a typical book I would choose to read. Therefore, I feel it was satisfactory and informational for this class.
So far, I think Madsen's book is very informational.
I do not relate to any of the stories that the women presidents have told. I do not see myself as a leader in that type of setting or even wanting to have that type of responsibility. I would much rather be the head chair person at a psychiatric hospital. But, I guess I could take what I need from the book to help me be an efficient leader in different settings.
In conclusion, this is not a typical book I would choose to read. Therefore, I feel it was satisfactory and informational for this class.
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